Dear Aiko, I’m going to be turning the big 5 0 in a few weeks and I’ve been single for awhile now. I’m nervous to date, but I am longing for a life long companion and someone to go out and have fun with. I’m just not having any luck. I’m shy too which doesn’t help. ~ Fearless Fifty
Dear Fearless Fifty, There is a biological need to want to be with someone and share a life. Sometimes in these situations there is tendency to put too much emphasis on the idea of having a partner and to catastrophize it. Start with being okay with being alone. When you’re okay with being alone and going out and trying new things and meeting new people as a result of that, then you will be ready to start a relationship. Being older shouldn’t be an issue, especially these days. The more important questions you should ask yourself are if you are healthy, if you feel good, if you're comfortable in your own skin and if you like your own company. Reach out to various social clubs and organizations and be willing to step outside your comfort zone. It’s easy to distract yourself from the matters at hand by saying, “I’m not twenty anymore,” but the dating rules have changed and it’s great to be different. Sincerely, Aiko
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