I’m just graduating from high school and as I’m going out into the world I am feeling so much pressure from the outside to look a certain way and behave a certain way. I feel that society’s view of beauty is being pushed on me. I’m not over weight and all of my friends tell me I am very pretty, yet I have so much anxiety about being perfect. Please help.
~In vogue girl
Lovely In vogue girl,
There is a huge market push toward narcissism and materialism. It sounds like your values might not be aligned with your peer group, but that doesn’t mean you need to isolate yourself. This is your opportunity to be a leader simply by being who you are and vocalizing what your believe in fearlessly. You have to accept and be okay with the fact that not everyone will agree with you all the time. What is important for you and your health is that you define what you see as beautiful and be or create that.
All the Best, Aiko
“I was having a really difficult time because my father had just passed and I was having kind of a emotional break down. I wanted to talk about it with some of the people I thought were my friends at the new yoga studio I had been going to since I moved away from home and I felt like I was just getting funny looks. I thought, it’s okay, guys, to talk about heavy, depressing stuff! I mean, it’s not contagious. You're not gonna catch it!”
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